- Do you make assumptions about people based on your first impressions?
- Do you give people second chances?
- Describe a time when your impression of someone changed.
Reading: Matthew 7: 1-5
You've probably heard the expression, "You only get one chance to make a first impression." First impressions are important, especially when you are interviewing for a job, meeting a new client, or going to your first family function with the in-laws.
I think first impressions are a little overrated. Yes, I agree that it is important to be on your best behavior and look good when you first meet someone or go somewhere. But it has also been my experience that after a little time, my impressions of people change. In fact, I can think of several people who have truly touched my life and have become some of my best friends. Ironically, when I first met them, I would never have imagined that we could become close.
I've thought about this often, trying to decide what course of events took place that changed my somewhat negative first impression to something more positive. In most cases, there was an event that caused us to share close quarters which leads me to believe that the saying is true, "You don't really know someone until you've had to live with them." But more so than that, I believe it was because I left myself be open to their ideas, to their way of life, and tore down walls built between us. I tried not to be closed-minded or prejudiced towards them even though I amy have at first been intimidated by them, felt like they were "beneath me" or were just unsure of how they felt about me.
This proves one thing: when we open ourselves up and are willing to share ourselves with others, it may very well be reciprocated, our lives may be blessed with the gift of a good friend, and we may learn a little in the process.
--Chad Hershberger, Camp Mount Luther Director
Closing: Discuss with others or meditate on this quote by Mother Teresa. "If we judge people, we have no time to love them."