- How do you deal with confrontation?
- Have you ever wished you had dealt with conflict in a different way?
- How do you think God wants us to deal with conflict?
Reading: Proverbs 15:18
When I was in college, I lived with a guy who often would let his dishes pile up in our sink. Often, the pile would get so large and so smelly that someone else in our apartment would do the dishes. I figured that everyone would do their share of work around our place and these dishes often got under my skin!
One day, another roommate and I decided that we would take those dirty dishes and put them under the sink so that we would not see them anymore. We had cleaned the whole apartment but refused to take care of those dishes. So, we put those dirty dishes in a box, under the sink.
When our roommate came home later that day, he seemed happy, especially when he realized there were no dishes in the sink. But then he went to make his supper that night and couldn't find his plates and pans. When he discovered them under the sink, in the box, he wasn't too happy.
We are told in Proverbs not to be too hot tempered. I guess what we did was wrong- we should have nicely confronted him with the problem and asked him to make sure his dishes were washed in a timely matter. Instead, we pulled off a stunt that incited an angry response, which did not help the situation.
Confrontation is not pleasant. But if we approach it in a loving manner, our attitude should help the situation and put the other party at ease as well. Perhaps if we would have done that in college, our days of dirty dishes would have diminished! --Chad Hershberger, Camp Mount Luther Director
Closing: Meditate on or discuss with others this quote: "Life is what we make it, always has been, always will be." (Grandma Moses)